Tej zaum yuav muaj ib lub sijhawm thaum koj tus phooj ywg chim siab thiab poob siab vim tias muaj qee yam tshwm sim rau nws (thiab qee yam zoo li no yuav tshwm sim ib hnub). Tej zaum nws tau tawg nrog nws tus hluas nkauj, poob haujlwm, raug tso tseg los ntawm tus neeg hlub, thiab lwm yam. Txawm hais tias qhov xwm txheej zoo li cas, koj yuav tsum yog phooj ywg zoo thiab muab kev txhawb nqa. Koj tseem tuaj yeem pom qhov tsis raug, mloog thiab tham nrog nws, thiab ua rau nws nyob hauv lwm txoj hauv kev.
Kauj ruam
Ntu 1 ntawm 4: Ua rau nws nqig
Kauj Ruam 1. Nyob twj ywm
Tej zaum nws yuav chim siab thiab poob siab heev, tab sis koj tsis tuaj yeem pab nws zoo yog tias koj npau taws thiab npau taws rau koj tus kheej. Ua pa tob tob ib zaug lossis ob zaug. Nco koj tus kheej tias koj nyob ntawd rau nws.
Kauj Ruam 2. Ua kom nws nyob hauv qhov chaw xis thiab nyab xeeb
Nrhiav qhov chaw uas tso cai rau nws nchuav tag nrho nws qhov kev raug mob, kev ntxhov siab, tsis meej pem, thiab kev xav tsis zoo.
- Xaiv qhov chaw uas tsis muaj dab tsi (lossis mus ntsib los ntawm ob peb tus neeg) yog li koj tus phooj ywg tsis tas yuav txhawj xeeb yog tias leej twg pom nws chim siab, thiab koj ob leeg tsis txhob thab lwm tus neeg nrog kev sib tham tau tham. Koj tuaj yeem nkag mus rau lwm chav lossis tawm mus sab nraud, piv txwv.
- Yog tias tsim nyog, nrhiav qhov chaw nyab xeeb uas koj tus phooj ywg tuaj yeem tso lawv txoj kev xav yam tsis ua mob lossis ua rau puas tsuaj. Koj yuav tsum tau nkag mus rau hauv chav uas tsis muaj rooj tog ntau lossis mus rau qhov chaw qhib sab nraum lub tsev.
- Yog tias koj tab tom tham nrog nws hauv xov tooj, nug seb nws puas nyob hauv ib qho chaw uas nws xav tias nyab xeeb thiab xis nyob. Yog tias tsis yog (thiab yog ua tau), tuaj tos nws thiab coj nws mus rau lwm qhov.
Kauj Ruam 3. Cia nws quaj, nag, thiab tham ntev li nws xav tau
Tsuav nws tsis ua mob rau nws tus kheej lossis ua rau muaj kev puas tsuaj nyob ib puag ncig nws, cia nws qhia nws txoj kev xav. Koj cov phooj ywg xav tau koj nyob ntawm lub sijhawm zoo li no.
- Yog tias tsim nyog, muab qhov chaw rau nws kom nyab xeeb tso tawm ib qho kev xav ntawm lub cev nruj.
- Sim tsis txhob nug nws kom txhob quaj lossis qw, tshwj tsis yog nws lub siab xav zoo li yuav dhia siab.
- Yog tias koj tab tom tham nrog nws hauv xov tooj, tsuas yog mloog nws zaj dab neeg thiab tos kom nws ua tiav qhov kev xav. Txhua lub sijhawm tam sim no, koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Yog, Kuv tseem tabtom mloog" kom qhia rau nws paub tias koj tseem tab tom nrog nws.
Kauj Ruam 4. Ua tib zoo mloog nws lub cev lus
Qee zaum, ib tus neeg hais tias lawv ua tau zoo, tab sis lawv lub cev lus cuam tshuam lwm yam. Qee qhov kev paub ntawm lub cev tuaj yeem qhia qhov kev ntxhov siab thiab kev ntxhov siab uas nws tau hnov. Nws lub cev lus qhia koj tias koj yuav tsum ua kom nws nqig ua ntej nws tuaj yeem qhia koj tias muaj dab tsi tshwm sim.
- Qee zaum, cov lus ntawm lub cev pom tau pom meej heev. Piv txwv, ceeb toom tias nws quaj los tsis quaj. Puas yog nws tawm hws lossis tshee? Nws puas ntaus nrig lossis taug kev rov qab los hauv chav?
- Ntawm qhov tod tes, lub cev lus uas tau qhia yuav tsis pom tseeb. Puas yog lub cev zoo li nruj lossis tawv? Puas yog nws txhais tes tuav? Puas yog nws lub qhov ncauj kaw thiab nws lub puab tsaig nruj? Puas yog nws ob lub qhov muag zoo li liab thiab puffy zoo li nws nyuam qhuav quaj?
Ntu 2 ntawm 4: Nrhiav Qhov Teeb Meem
Kauj Ruam 1. Ua kom ntseeg tau tias tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam dab tsi
Txoj kev ntawd, koj tuaj yeem mloog nws zoo, tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam lossis tsis tsom mus rau lwm yam.
- Nws yuav nyuaj rau koj tus phooj ywg qhia koj tias muaj dab tsi tshwm sim yog tias muaj ntau yam kev cuam tshuam lossis cuam tshuam rau koj ob leeg.
- Sim mus xyuas qhov chaw ntsiag to yog tias koj nyob hauv qhov chaw muaj neeg coob.
- Tua cov cuab yeej hluav taws xob lossis tsawg kawg qhib lub suab ntsiag to. Lub xov tooj ntawm tes uas nrov nrov thiab vibrates txhua ob peb vib nas this paub tseeb tias yuav cuam tshuam koj kev sib tham.
Kauj Ruam 2. Ua tib zoo mloog rau nws
Qhia tias tam sim no, tsis muaj ib yam tseem ceeb rau koj tshaj li mloog zaj dab neeg.
- Tshem koj lub siab kom koj tsis txhob xav txog lwm yam uas tuaj yeem cuam tshuam koj. Ua tib zoo mloog nws zaj dab neeg, thiab nkag siab qhov nws hais.
- Siv lub cev lus los qhia tias nws mob siab rau koj. Tig koj lub cev rau nws. Dhau li, saib rau hauv nws lub qhov muag.
- Ua kom pom tseeb tias nws tau ua tib zoo mloog. Koj tuaj yeem hais, piv txwv li, "Kuv yuav ua tib zoo mloog koj zaj dab neeg thiab nyob ntawd rau koj."
Kauj Ruam 3. Nrhiav seb dab tsi ua rau nws chim siab thiab poob siab
Ua twj ywm nug seb muaj dab tsi tshwm sim rau nws. Piv txwv li, koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv xav paub dab tsi ua rau koj chim siab thiab ua phem rau koj. Thov qhia kuv tias muaj dab tsi tshwm sim. " Koj tseem tuaj yeem hais tias, "Dab tsi tsis raug? Dab tsi tshwm sim?"
Kauj Ruam 4. Tsis txhob yuam kom nws qhia zaj dab neeg
Kev yuam nws tsuas yog ua rau nws txwv nws txoj kev xav. Tsis tas li ntawd, koj qhov kev quab yuam kuj tseem tuaj yeem ua rau nws chim siab lossis poob siab ntau dua.
- Ua siab ncaj rau nws tias koj txaus siab nyob ntawd thaum nws npaj tham, thiab tsim kev ntseeg siab rau nws.
- Sim hais, piv txwv li, “Tsis txhob yuam nws. Kuv nyob ntawm no rau koj. Koj tuaj yeem tham thaum twg koj npaj tau."
- Zaum ntsiag to kom txog thaum nws npaj txhij tham.
- Nws kuj tseem tuaj yeem pib sib tham nrog tham me me thaum sib sau ua siab loj qhia qhov tshwm sim.
Kauj Ruam 5. Ua siab ntev
Nws yuav tsis qhia koj tias muaj dab tsi tshwm sim tam sim ntawd, tab sis yog tias koj muab sijhawm rau nws, thaum kawg nws yuav qhib thiab nthuav tawm dab tsi uas cuam tshuam rau nws.
Ntu 3 ntawm 4: Mloog thiab Tham
Kauj Ruam 1. Ua tus mloog zoo
Nws muaj peev xwm nws yuav tsum tham txog dab tsi tshwm sim (lossis tseem) tshwm sim thiab nws xav li cas txog nws. Thaum nws qhib, cia nws tham txog nws qhov xwm txheej thiab kev xav.
- Mloog nws yuav tsum hais dab tsi, thiab txoj kev nws qhia nws zaj dab neeg. Ntau zaus, txoj kev uas ib tus neeg hais dab neeg tuaj yeem muab tswv yim rau koj, ib yam li cov dab neeg uas lawv qhia.
- Sim tsis txhob cuam tshuam lossis ua rau nws hnov nrawm. Qee lub sij hawm nws nyuaj rau ib tus neeg tham txog qee yam uas ua rau lawv poob siab thiab ua rau lawv poob siab.
- Xav txog yam nws tau hais rau koj, tsis yog lo lus teb uas koj xav tau muab rau nws zaj dab neeg.
Kauj Ruam 2. Nug cov lus nug kom meej
Yog tias koj tsis nkag siab qee yam, thov kom nws piav qhia ntxiv lossis rov ua qhov nws tau hais hauv txoj kev nkag siab.
- Txoj kev ntawd, koj tuaj yeem nkag siab tiag tiag dab tsi ua rau koj tus phooj ywg chim siab thiab poob siab.
- Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Ah, yog li … Yog lawm? " lossis "Tsuas yog ib pliag. Yog li ntawd?"
- Koj cov lus nug tseem qhia tau tias koj yeej mloog thiab mob siab rau zaj dab neeg.
Kauj Ruam 3. Kho cov lus nug tsis zoo uas nws nug txog nws tus kheej
Piv txwv li, yog tias nws hais tias "Kuv tsis muaj nqis" lossis "Kuv tsis tsim nyog tau txais kev zoo siab", hloov cov lus nug rau, "Tau kawg koj tsim nyog tau txais kev zoo siab!" thiab/lossis “Koj yog tus neeg muaj txiaj ntsig. Saib pes tsawg leej neeg hlub thiab saib xyuas koj. Kuv hlub koj ib yam thiab mob siab txog koj."
Kauj Ruam 4. Tsis txhob ua qhov teeb meem me ntsis
Sib tham txog cov xwm txheej zoo sib xws lossis tsis zoo, ceeb toom nws tias qee yam tsis zoo tshwm sim ntau dua li qhov tau tshwm sim rau nws, lossis qee tus neeg tab tom hla yam mob ntau dua tsis yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws ua. Qhov ntawd tsis pab dab tsi thiab tsuas yog ua rau tej yam tsis zoo.
- Cov lus zoo li ntawd tuaj yeem ua rau koj tus phooj ywg xav tias koj tsis nkag siab tiag tiag lossis mob siab txog lawv qhov xwm txheej.
- Kev tsis txaus siab qhov teeb meem ua rau koj zoo li koj xav tias nws yog "whiny" yam. Ib qho ntxiv, nws kuj zoo li muab lub tswv yim tias nws chim siab lossis poob siab rau tej yam tsis tseem ceeb.
- Hloov chaw ntawm qhov teeb meem tsis tseem ceeb, sim hais tias, "Kuv nkag siab tias koj chim siab" lossis "Kuv nkag siab tias vim li cas koj thiaj chim siab."
Kauj Ruam 5. Tsis txhob sim daws qhov teeb meem
Tsis txhob qhia nws tias koj yuav ua dab tsi hauv qhov xwm txheej zoo sib xws, tshwj tsis yog hauv lub pinch lossis yog nws nug koj kom pab. Ntau zaus, ib tus neeg tsuas yog xav hnov los ntawm lwm tus.
Kauj Ruam 6. Qhia kev pab tshaj lij
Yog tias nws yog tus neeg raug tsim txom los ntawm kev ua phem lossis ua phem txhaum cai, qhia rau nws paub tias koj xav tiv toj rau cov tub ceev xwm kom nws thiaj li tau txais kev pab raug.
- Yog tias nws tsis xav tau, tsis txhob yuam nws. Koj txoj kev yuam yuav tsuas yog ua rau nws chim siab thiab tu siab ntau. Txog tam sim no, cia qhov xwm txheej yog.
- Tsis txhob ua ib yam dab tsi uas tuaj yeem cuam tshuam lossis ua pov thawj ntawm qhov xwm txheej (piv txwv li tshem tawm cov ntawv sau los ntawm tus neeg ua phem, da dej, thiab lwm yam).
- Yog tias nws zoo li nyob ntsiag to, thawb nws rov qab mus ntsib cov tub ceev xwm. Qhia rau nws paub tias muaj cov kws tshaj lij uas tuaj yeem tiv thaiv nws (yog tias tsim nyog) thiab pab nws daws cov teeb meem uas tshwm sim.
- Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv xav tias peb yuav tsum tshaj tawm qhov no rau [tub ceev xwm, kws kho mob, lossis lwm tus tub ceev xwm]. Lawv tuaj yeem pab koj hauv qhov teeb meem no. Yuav ua li cas peb tshaj tawm ua ke?"
Ntu 4 ntawm 4: Muab Kev Thaj Yeeb Hauv Lwm Txoj Hauv Kev
Kauj Ruam 1. Ua siab zoo txhawb nws
Muab nws nrog kev hais lus tsim nyog thiab txhawb nqa lub cev. Qhia kev hlub thiab cia nws quaj yog tias nws xav tau.
- Ua ntej tshaj, xyuas kom nws xis nyob nrog kev sib tham ntawm lub cev. Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, "Kuv puas khawm koj?" lossis "Kuv puas khawm koj?"
- Kev sib cuag ntawm lub cev yog so siab heev, tab sis nug seb nws puas xis nyob thaum nws puag, puag thaum pw, lossis tau txais lwm yam kov ua ntej ua li ntawd.
- Kev sib cuag ntawm lub cev tuaj yeem ua rau ib tus neeg nyob twj ywm, tab sis yog tias nws tsis xav tau, tsis txhob sib cuag.
Kauj Ruam 2. Thov Vajtswv lossis ua tib zoo xav
Qee zaum, yooj yim zaum ntsiag to, thov Vajtswv lossis ua tib zoo xav, tuaj yeem ua rau tib neeg nyob ntsiag to thiab ua rau lawv muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb.
Kauj Ruam 3. Tso lub cev tsis muaj zog
Ua cov dej num nquag uas xav tau kev tawm dag zog lub cev tuaj yeem pab koj tus phooj ywg tso lub cev tsis muaj zog. Cov dej num zoo li no tuaj yeem ua rau nws nqig lossis cuam tshuam nws ntawm qhov teeb meem ntawm tes ib pliag.
- Piv txwv li, coj nws mus taug kev, dhia, ua luam dej, lossis caij tsheb kauj vab.
- Ua yoga, tai chi, lossis yooj yim ncab.
Kauj Ruam 4. Zam kev mloog
Qee zaum, tsuas yog ib yam uas tuaj yeem ua tau yog tiv thaiv nws los ntawm kev xav txog qee yam uas cuam tshuam nws.
- Kom nws ua tej yam uas nws nyiam (lossis tsuas yog coj nws mus rau qhov nws nyiam). Mus rau chav ua dej khov lossis saib yeeb yaj kiab ntawm xinesmas.
- Koom nrog nws hauv ib qhov haujlwm tshwj xeeb (piv txwv li muab khaub ncaws rau pub dawb lossis ua vaj zaub).
- Nrhiav ib yam dab tsi lom zem (piv txwv li meme funny lossis video clip) kom ua rau lub siab xav.
Lub tswv yim
- Muab rau hauv thiab mloog zaj dab neeg es tsis txhob sim daws qhov teeb meem tam sim ntawd.
- Tsis txhob qhia rau lwm tus neeg zaj dab neeg, tshwj tsis yog nws tau tso cai. Yog tias koj qhia lwm tus neeg tus kheej tsis pub lwm tus paub, lawv yuav tsis ntseeg koj ntxiv lawm. Nco ntsoov tias txij thaum pib koj cov phooj ywg pom koj raws li ib tus neeg uas lawv tuaj yeem ntseeg los qhia lawv cov kev xav thiab kev txhawj xeeb!
Ceeb toom
- Yog tias koj tus phooj ywg tau raug tsim txom los ntawm kev ua phem lossis ua phem, koj yuav tsum tau txiav txim siab los tshaj tawm lawv cov ntaub ntawv.
- Hu rau cov tub ceev xwm lossis cov kws tshaj lij yog tias koj tus phooj ywg xav ua phem rau nws tus kheej lossis lwm tus.
