Kev khaws cov khoom (tseem hu ua khaws cia) yog qhov xwm txheej kho mob uas tus neeg tsis muaj peev xwm muab pov tseg lossis cais tawm ntawm lawv cov khoom. Tus cwj pwm zoo li no feem ntau ua teeb meem rau ob tus neeg khaws khoom thiab nws cov neeg hlub. Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau koj kom paub tias kev khaws nyiaj tsis yog khaws cov khoom nkaus xwb, vim tias tus neeg ua phem qhia pom kev xav hauv siab rau cov khoom uas nws tau khaws cia. Tsis muaj ib txoj hauv kev "raug cai" los daws qhov teeb meem no, tab sis nrog kev nkag siab thiab nkag siab kev sib tham, koj tuaj yeem pab txhim kho cov neeg khaws cia lub neej zoo.
Kauj ruam
Txoj Kev 1 ntawm 3: Pab Hoarders
Kauj Ruam 1. Ua ntej txheeb xyuas tus cwj pwm nyiag nyiaj
Cov neeg uas khaws cov khoom ntau dhau yuav khaws cov khoom loj hauv qhov tsis xws luag (piv txwv li, hauv qhov chaw tsis zoo), uas tuaj yeem tsim kev phom sij nyob ib puag ncig. Hoarders feem ntau tsis tuaj yeem pov tseg ntawm cov khoom khaws cia, txawm tias cov khoom uas tsis muaj txiaj ntsig kev lag luam lawm. Lawv khaws cov khoom no vim tias lawv, nyob rau hauv qhov tsis txaus ntseeg, xav tias lawv yuav xav tau ntxiv nyob rau yav tom ntej.
- Cov chav nyob hauv lub tsev khaws khoom feem ntau tsis tuaj yeem siv tau rau cov haujlwm txhua hnub (piv txwv li, pw tsaug zog lossis ua haujlwm) vim tias cov chav no tau ntim nrog cov khoom uas tau khaws cia.
- Hoarders feem ntau khaws cov ntawv xov xwm, ntawv xov xwm, ntawv nthuav qhia, thiab lwm yam ntaub ntawv uas muaj qee cov ntaub ntawv kom lawv tuaj yeem nyeem thiab nqus cov ntaub ntawv muaj nyob hauv cov ntawv tshaj tawm no tom qab hnub kawg. Hmoov tsis zoo, ntau tus neeg khaws nyiaj tsis tas nyeem cov ntawv tshaj tawm no.
- Tus khaws khoom qhia tau tias muaj kev xav zoo heev rau nws cov khoom thiab xav tias yog tus tswv tuaj yeem muab kev nplij siab thiab kev nyab xeeb rau nws. Yog li ntawd, poob yam khoom hauv nws lub tsev tuaj yeem ua rau nws zoo li nws tau poob ib nrab ntawm nws tus plig.
Kauj Ruam 2. Nkag siab txog cov teeb meem tseem ceeb uas ua rau coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo
Cov laj thawj tom qab khaws tus cwj pwm sib txawv ntawm ib tus neeg rau ib tus neeg, tab sis feem ntau cov neeg khaws nyiaj tsis tu ncua qhia qhov kev xav lossis kev xav sib txuas rau cov khoom uas lawv khaws. Lawv kuj feem ntau tsis kam xav txog lossis tham txog cov khoom no.
Kauj Ruam 3. Txheeb xyuas qhov xwm txheej ntawm tus khaws nyiaj ntau
Yog tias koj tsis nyob nrog tus khaws nyiaj, nco ntsoov tias koj mus ntsib nws thiab sib tham nrog nws yog tias koj muaj sijhawm. Ntawm txhua qhov kev mus ntsib, xyuas seb nws tus mob puas zoo zuj zus lossis zoo zuj zus tuaj. Ib qho ntxiv, ntsuas seb qhov xwm txheej tau ua rau muaj kev phom sij rau tus neeg khaws khoom lossis tsis.
Kauj Ruam 4. Txheeb xyuas qhov teeb meem ntawm tes
Ntau tus neeg khaws khoom lees paub lawv tus cwj pwm khaws cia lossis tsuas yog xav khaws cov khoom uas lawv muaj. Hmoov tsis zoo, lawv tsis nkag siab txog teeb meem kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev nyab xeeb uas tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm tus cwj pwm no. Lawv yuav tsis pom lawv tus cwj pwm ua teeb meem, thiab feem ntau tsis paub txog qhov cuam tshuam lawv tus cwj pwm muaj rau lwm tus.
Kauj Ruam 5. Qhia meej txog yam koj txhawj xeeb hauv txoj kev tsis txiav txim siab
Nws tsim nyog qhia tus neeg khaws khoom txog koj qhov kev txhawj xeeb rau tus tuav pov hwm kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev nyab xeeb uas yuav muaj kev pheej hmoo vim nws tus cwj pwm, tab sis sim tsis ua suab txiav txim. Sim ua tib zoo saib xyuas kev noj qab haus huv txaus ntshai uas tuaj yeem tsim kev phom sij, xws li pwm, hmoov av, thiab kev huv ntawm ib puag ncig. Koj tseem tuaj yeem tsom mus rau kev nyab xeeb ntawm ib puag ncig uas koj nyob, xws li kev pheej hmoo ntawm hluav taws thiab thaiv txoj kev khiav tawm.
- Thaum tham nrog tus khaws nyiaj, sim tsis txhob tsom mus rau ntau yam ntawm cov khoom hauv cov khoom khaws cia. Qhov no tuaj yeem tig tus hoarder ntawm kev tiv thaiv.
- Piv txwv li, koj tuaj yeem hais "Kuv mob siab rau koj, thiab kuv mob siab txog koj kev nyab xeeb. Koj lub tsev (lossis tsev) tam sim no muaj plua plav thiab pwm, thiab vim yog cov khoom txhua qhov txhia chaw, nws yuav nyuaj rau koj kom sai thiab nyab xeeb tawm ntawm koj qhov chaw nyob thaum muaj xwm txheej ceev."
Kauj Ruam 6. Ua ntej muab kev pab, ua ntej nug tus tso nyiaj rau kev tso cai
Koj tuaj yeem ua rau tus neeg khaws nyiaj txiag txhawj xeeb yog tias koj npaj tam sim lossis muab cov khoom khaws cia yam tsis tau tso cai. Yog li ntawd, tso siab rau nws tias yuav tsis muaj leej twg nkag mus hauv nws lub tsev thiab tsuas yog muab nws cov khoom pov tseg. Muab los pab txheeb nws cov khoom lossis nug tus kws tshaj lij muab kev pabcuam muab kev pabcuam. Thaum kawg, nws yog tus khaws nyiaj uas yuav txiav txim siab yuav ua li cas nrog cov khoom.
Sim siv cov lus lossis cov ntsiab lus uas tus khaws cia siv los hais txog nws cov khoom khaws cia. Yog hais tias tus khaws cia hais txog nws cov khoom khaws cia raws li nws cov khoom sau lossis khoom, siv lub sijhawm kom koj tsis txhob hnov suab zoo li 'kev hem' lossis ua rau nws khov
Kauj Ruam 7. Ua ob peb nqe lus hais txog yam uas nws muaj
Koj tuaj yeem khaws cov ntaub ntawv hais txog cov khoom no thiab sim pab tus khaws khoom los ntawm kev xam tawm vim li cas nws khaws cov khoom thiab nws npaj nws li cas. Sim ua kom cov neeg khaws khoom xav tias nws tau ua tiav kev tswj hwm nws cov khoom. Nco ntsoov, koj nyob ntawd los pab, tsis qhia koj tias yuav ua dab tsi.
Qee cov lus nug nug yog: "Kuv pom muaj ntau phau ntawv nyob hauv txoj kev hauv tsev. Vim li cas koj thiaj muab tso rau ntawd? " "Kuv xav tias cov no tuaj yeem pab koj thaum koj khiav thaum muaj xwm txheej ceev. Koj puas xav tias muaj lwm qhov chaw tso cov khoom no? " "Koj puas muaj kev xav txog yuav ua li cas kom chav no nyab xeeb?"
Kauj Ruam 8. Pab tus neeg khaws khoom kom ua tiav nws lub hom phiaj
Cov hom phiaj tsim khoom no yuav tsum tsom mus rau kev txhim kho lub neej zoo ntawm cov neeg khaws khoom, ntxiv rau kev ua haujlwm tau zoo ntawm chav. Ua kom ntseeg tau tias cov hom phiaj no tuaj yeem ntsuas tau.
- Tsis txhob ua lub hom phiaj tseem ceeb tsom mus rau qhov tsis zoo (piv txwv li, tshem tawm txhua yam khoom uas tau sau ua ke)
- Tsis txhob teem lub hom phiaj tsis meej xws li "ua kom lub tsev huv thiab huv si." Lub hom phiaj zoo dua, piv txwv li, yuav yog "tshem tawm thaj chaw ntawm txoj kev hauv tsev thiab ua kom txhua qhov tawm mus tau yooj yim."
- Pib nrog cov teeb meem loj ntawm kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev nyab xeeb, tom qab ntawd tsom mus rau lwm lub hom phiaj me uas tuaj yeem pab txhim kho lub neej khaws cia.
Kauj Ruam 9. Tsis txhob ua tej yam uas tuaj yeem ua rau nws ntxhov siab
Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nyob ntsiag to thiab ua siab ntev thaum cuam tshuam nrog tus khaws khoom. Nco ntsoov tias tus cwj pwm no yog teeb meem kev xav thiab, rau tus khaws nyiaj, tsuas yog tu lub tsev yuav tsis daws teeb meem mus sij hawm ntev. Koj kuj ua qhov kev pheej hmoo ntawm kev tawg thiab poob kev ntseeg siab uas koj tau txais los ntawm tus khaws nyiaj.
- Tsis txhob thuam, yuam, lossis rau txim rau ib tus neeg uas muaj tus cwj pwm no.
- Tsis txhob tawm tsam lossis thuam tus neeg khaws nyiaj. Hloov chaw, sim ua haujlwm nrog tus khaws khoom kom ua tiav lub hom phiaj tau teev tseg.
Kauj Ruam 10. Qhuas kev txhim kho
Thaum twg tus neeg khaws khoom siv dag zog los txhim kho qhov zoo ntawm nws lub tsev, muab nws qhuas. Koj tuaj yeem pom thaj chaw me me ntawm nws lub tsev uas tau raug tshem tawm ntawm cov khoom lossis lossis, thaum kawg, koj yuav pom phab ntsa uas yav dhau los tsis pom vim muaj kev cuam tshuam. Txawm hais tias qhov kev txhim kho me me npaum li cas, nws yuav tsum tau qhuas thiab muaj lus teb zoo los ntawm koj.
Kauj Ruam 11. Nrhiav kev txhawb siab kom txhawb nqa tus khaws cia kom zoo dua qub
Thaum nws qee zaum tuaj yeem nyuaj rau txhawb ib tus neeg, koj tuaj yeem tuaj yeem nrhiav txoj hauv kev kom tau txais cov neeg txhawb nqa kom xav txhim kho. Piv txwv li, koj tuaj yeem hais qhia tus tuav pov hwm pov ib tog lossis sib sau ua ke ntawm nws lub tsev. Qhov no yuav txhawb nws kom ntxuav ib puag ncig uas nws nyob ua ntej cov neeg caw tuaj txog.
Kauj Ruam 12. Tsim txoj kev npaj ntxuav
Tus khaws nyiaj yuav tsis muaj peev xwm los npaj thiab txheeb cov khoom kom zoo. Yog tias nws xav qhib kom tau txais koj kev pab, muab los pab ua kom huv thiab txheeb tawm cov khoom uas nws tau sau. Tej zaum koj yuav tsum tau khaws cov ntim khoom, cov txee, duab los qhia, thiab cov ntawv ua ntej pib koj li phiaj xwm kev tu.
- Pib los ntawm kev teeb tsa cov thawv ntawv loj lossis lub hnab yas rau khaws cov khoom thiab sau txhua daim nrog "khaws," "pov tseg," thiab "pub dawb." Koj kuj tseem yuav tsum teeb tsa qhov chaw khoob los sib sau cov khoom kom sib cais thaum tus kws txiav txim siab txiav txim siab muab cov khoom tso rau qhov twg.
- Pawg cov khoom sib xws. Los ntawm kev pom ib yam khoom tshwj xeeb hauv qhov ntau, tus khaws nyiaj yuav pom nws yooj yim dua kom txo tus nqi ntawm cov khoom ntawd. Piv txwv li, yog tias tus neeg khaws khoom muaj 100 lub thawv ntawv, nws yuav txaus siab txo nws qhov 'sau' ntawm cov ntaub so ntswg rau 50. Txawm hais tias me me, cov kauj ruam no tuaj yeem pab tau.
- Txheeb cais cov khoom rau hauv “xav tau” thiab “tsis xav tau.” Txhawm rau ua kom yooj yim dua rau tus khaws cia rau kev txiav txim siab, koj tuaj yeem pib los ntawm kev khaws cov khoom uas koj tsis xav tau ntxiv, xws li zaub mov tas sij hawm lossis cov nroj tsuag tuag.
- Sib tham qhov twg khaws cov khoom uas yuav nyob twj ywm. Qhov chaw yuav yog chav tshwj xeeb lossis tsev rau khoom nyob hauv tsev khaws khoom.
Kauj Ruam 13. Paub qhov tshwm sim ntawm kev khaws cia ruaj khov
Ob qhov kev qhia tseem ceeb ntawm tus cwj pwm no yog kev tsis muaj peev xwm sib tham lossis ua haujlwm, thiab ib puag ncig tsis muaj kev nyab xeeb. Yog tias qhov xwm txheej ntawm tus khaws cia tsis raug tshuaj xyuas, nws tus cwj pwm tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev nyab xeeb nyob ib puag ncig uas nws nyob. Nws tseem tuaj yeem ntsib teeb meem kev noj qab haus huv thiab nyiaj txiag, thiab cuam tshuam kev sib raug zoo nrog lwm tus.
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Qee qhov kev phom sij tshwj xeeb uas tuaj yeem suav nrog:
- Kev thaiv txoj hauv kev tawm ntawm lub tsev los ntawm cov khoom ntim khoom, ua rau nws txaus ntshai heev rau cov neeg khaws khoom thaum muaj hluav taws, ntxiv rau ua txhaum txoj cai ntsig txog kev tsim kho
- Muaj kev pheej hmoo noj qab haus huv ntau ntxiv vim muaj tshwm sim ntawm cov pwm thiab hmoov av uas tuaj yeem tsim kev puas tsuaj rau ib puag ncig, nrog rau kev ua txhaum txoj cai ntsig txog kev noj qab haus huv
- Txo kev tu tus kheej kom txo qis vim tsis muaj peev xwm saib xyuas tus kheej, xws li da dej
- Ua kom tus kheej nyob ib leeg thiab zam kev sib raug zoo
- Kev sib raug zoo hauv tsev neeg, tsis quav ntsej cov menyuam, sib cais los ntawm tsev neeg lossis sib nrauj.
Kauj Ruam 14. Khaws cov txheej txheem khiav mus
Kev siv zog los ntxuav thiab teeb tsa pawg loj heev yuav tsum siv sijhawm ntau. Cov txheej txheem tsis yog ib yam uas tuaj yeem ua tiav hauv ib hnub. Thaum cov txheej txheem ntev no tseem tab tom ua, koj tseem yuav tsum tau qhia kev siv zog, txawm hais tias me me tab sis tseem pheej ua, kom huv thiab tu lub tsev khaws khoom.
Txoj Kev 2 ntawm 3: Nyob Nrog Tus Hoarder
Kauj Ruam 1. Paub qhov sib txawv ntawm kev sib sau ua ke thiab khaws cia
Cov neeg sau khoom lossis cov neeg sau khoom yog cov neeg uas nyiam tau txais qee yam khoom. Lawv feem ntau yuav tso tawm cov khoom no kom zoo. Lub caij no, tus khaws cov khoom khaws ib yam khoom thiab, hloov chaw, tsim pawg ntawm cov khoom txaus ntshai.
- Cov neeg uas khaws qee yam khoom tshwj xeeb - xws li menyuam roj hmab, nyiaj muas noj, lub rooj zaum kawg, cov duab puab, thiab cov zoo li ntawd - thiab npaj lawv kom huv si tsis yog khaws cia; lawv yog neeg sau.
- Tsis txhob cia koj tus kheej kev xav thiab kev xav txog kev huv, huv si, thiab kev txiav txim siab txog yam khoom tseem ceeb lossis tsis cuam tshuam koj rau npe rau lwm tus. Koj tsis tuaj yeem yooj yim sau ib tus neeg li tus khaws cia tsuas yog vim cov kev xav ntawm tus kheej lossis kev xav ntawm tus kheej.
Kauj Ruam 2. Ua siab ntev
Nyob nrog ib tus neeg hauv tsev neeg uas muaj tus cwj pwm coj tsis zoo tuaj yeem nyuaj vim tias nws yuav npau taws thaum twg koj sim ua kom huv lossis teeb tsa cov khoom hauv tsev, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum koj thov kom lawv pab koj ua kom huv thiab ua kom huv.
Kauj Ruam 3. Tsom ntsoov rau kev lees paub tias tus tuav ntaub ntawv sib koom ib qho chaw nyob nrog koj
Koj yuav tsum ceeb toom nws tias nws nyob hauv ib qho chaw ib yam li koj. Qhia meej los tsim thaj chaw nyob uas tsis ua mob rau ob tog thiab sim tsis cais nws cov khoom los ntawm cov chav nyob hauv koj lub tsev (piv txwv li, chav tsev neeg).
Kauj Ruam 4. Sim daws qhov teeb meem nrog nws
Yog tias nws hais tias nws xav tau khaws nws cov khoom, sim teeb tsa ib thaj tsam. Koj tuaj yeem hais meej tias chav ib puag ncig xws li chav tsev neeg lossis chav ua noj yuav tsum tsis muaj cov khoom uas tau sau ua ke, tom qab ntawd qhia meej chav tshwj xeeb uas nws tuaj yeem khaws nws cov khoom.
Koj tuaj yeem muab chav tshwj xeeb los khaws nws cov khoom thaum tseem qhia koj qhov kev txhawj xeeb txog kev coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo thiab hais txog koj xav tau kev nyob ib puag ncig tsis muaj khib nyiab
Kauj Ruam 5. Tsis txhob cia li muab cov khoom pov tseg pov tseg
Pov tseg cov khoom no, txawm tias koj pom lawv li cov thoob khib nyiab, tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev sib cav hauv koj txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog tus neeg hauv tsev neeg ntawd. Koj tuaj yeem tshem qhov kev ntseeg siab uas koj tau teeb tsa kom nws tuaj yeem dhau los ua kev sib koom ua ke.
Txoj Kev 3 ntawm 3: Siv Kev Pabcuam Kev Pabcuam Tshwj Xeeb
Kauj Ruam 1. Txheeb xyuas qhov xwm txheej uas yuav ua rau muaj tus cwj pwm khaws cia
Muaj ntau yam xwm txheej nyuaj uas ua rau tus cwj pwm no, tab sis feem ntau ntau cov neeg khaws khoom sib koom cov teeb meem ib yam. Hoarders feem ntau muaj cov neeg hauv tsev neeg uas tseem muaj cov txhab nyiaj, tau raug mob lub hlwb, lossis tau dhau mus rau theem ntawm lub neej uas tau ua rau muaj kev puas tsuaj tshwj xeeb (xws li kev tuag ntawm ib tus neeg lawv hlub). Qee tus cwj pwm khaws cia kuj tshwm sim los ntawm kev mob hlwb uas tshwm sim tas li, xws li:
- txhawj xeeb
- kev raug mob
- kev nyuaj siab
- mloog tsis txaus teeb meem lossis hyperactivity
- quav cawv
- loj hlob nyob rau hauv ib puag ncig tsev neeg chaotic
- tus mob schizophrenia
- dementia
- ntau dhau compulsive teeb meem
- tus cwj pwm tsis zoo
Kauj Ruam 2. Muab kev pab sab nraud los pab ua cov txheej txheem ntxuav
Tus neeg khaws khoom yuav xav tias muaj kev xav lossis txaj muag yog tias nws yuav tsum tau nug cov neeg hauv tsev neeg los pab txheeb nws cov khoom. Yog li ntawd, nws yuav zoo li qhib rau kev tau txais kev pab los ntawm cov neeg sab nrauv - qhov no, tus kws tshaj lij kev thauj khoom.
Kauj Ruam 3. Txhawb tus neeg khaws khoom kom tau txais kev kho mob
Kev tu ib leeg yuav tsis tas daws feem ntau ntawm cov teeb meem ntsig txog tus cwj pwm no. Cov uas muaj tus cwj pwm no feem ntau xav tau ua ke ntawm kev paub txog tus cwj pwm kev kho mob, kev tsim txuj ci, thiab tshuaj.
- Ib txoj hauv kev ntawm kev paub txog tus cwj pwm kev kho mob uas siv tau yog hu ua raug thiab tiv thaiv kev tiv thaiv. Txoj kev no cob qhia cov neeg koom nrog kho kom tsis txhob raug cov khoom uas lawv ntshai, thiab txo lawv cov lus teb rau cov kev ntshai.
- Kev kho rau cov neeg khaws khoom feem ntau siv SSRI (Xaiv Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor) tshuaj tiv thaiv kev nyuaj siab. Cov tshuaj no kuj tseem siv los kho cov neeg uas muaj teeb meem kev xav yuam kev. Qee cov tshuaj no suav nrog Anafranil, Zofran, Lexapro, Zoloft, Prozac, thiab Paxil.
Kauj Ruam 4. Caw lawv koom nrog kev kho ua ke
Yog tias koj nyob nrog tus tuav pov hwm lossis tus tuav pov hwm yog ib tus tswv cuab ntawm koj tsev neeg, ob qho tib si koj thiab tus khaws nyiaj yuav pom nws yooj yim dua los kho ua ke, txawm nws yog kev kho tus txij nkawm, kev kho tsev neeg, lossis pab pawg kho mob. Kev koom nrog kev kho ua ke yuav txhawb kom nws mus rau nws cov kev kho mob.
Kauj Ruam 5. Hu koj tus kws kho mob lossis kws kho mob hlwb
Koj tuaj yeem tau txais lus qhia los ntawm kws kho mob txog txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj los kho tus neeg khaws khoom lossis hais kom nws mus kho. Qee thaj tsam tseem muab kev pabcuam los daws teeb meem ntsig txog kev coj cwj pwm tsis zoo lossis lwm yam teeb meem kev noj qab haus huv hauv lub hlwb los ntawm kev muaj cov pej xeem lub cev los daws kev mob hlwb.
