Kev sib raug zoo nyob hauv tsev muab sijhawm rau koj thiab koj tus khub los qhia koj tus kheej, ua tiav koj qhov zoo tshaj plaws, thiab txhim kho koj tus kheej. Txhawm rau kom muaj kev sib raug zoo, noj qab haus huv, thiab lom zem, pib los ntawm kev tsim lub hauv paus ruaj khov txij thaum pib. Txog qhov ntawd, kawm paub yuav sib txuas lus zoo li cas thiab muaj kev hwm los ntawm kev nyeem kab ntawv no.
Kauj ruam
Ntu 1 ntawm 3: Sib Tham Zoo
Kauj Ruam 1. Qhia koj cov kev xav
Yog tias muaj qee yam koj xav tau lossis xav tau los ntawm koj tus khub, qhia lawv ncaj qha vim tias lawv nyeem tsis tau lossis paub lawv tus kheej li cas koj tab tom xav. Koj tau ua tsis ncaj ncees rau koj tus kheej thiab koj tus khub yog tias muaj qee yam koj xav tau los ntawm koj tus khub, tab sis nyob twj ywm. Yog li qhia rau koj tus khub paub yog tias muaj qee yam cuam tshuam rau koj.
Yog tias koj tsis paub yuav hais dab tsi, pib tham nrog "Kuv tab tom xav txog qee yam. Kuv puas tuaj yeem qhia qee yam rau koj?" lossis "Yog tias koj tsis mloog, kuv xav tham vim tias muaj qee yam cuam tshuam rau kuv."
Kauj Ruam 2. Kawm mloog zoo
Ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm kev muaj kev sib raug zoo yog kev paub thaum twg tham thiab thaum twg mloog. Kawm mloog lwm tus neeg yam tsis cuam tshuam kev sib tham los ntawm kev tso cai rau koj tus khub piav qhia qhov nws xav thiab xav li cas. Mloog nws cov lus piav qhia tag nrho lub siab thiab tsis teb yog tias nws tseem tab tom tham.
Ua kom nquag siv kev txawj mloog los ntawm kev sim nkag siab nws txoj kev xav thiab hais lus. Piv txwv li, "Kuv xav kom lees paub qhov koj nyuam qhuav hais. Kuv xav tias kuv ua rau koj poob siab los ntawm qhov tsis qhia koj paub tias lub sijhawm twg koj yuav nyob hauv tsev nag hmo. Kuv nkag siab kuv tau txhawj xeeb koj ntau dua li ib txwm."
Kauj Ruam 3. Txheeb thaj tsam kom tsim nyog
Ua ntej pib kev sib raug zoo, koj yuav tsum teeb tsa ciam teb kom ob tog sib hwm ib leeg thiab nkag siab ib leeg qhov kev cia siab. Yog li, ciam teb yuav tsum tsis txhob txwv. Yog tias koj tus khub tus cwj pwm ua rau koj tsis xis nyob, piav qhia qhov no thiab tom qab ntawd tham txog dab tsi ob tog yuav tsum hloov pauv thiab ua rau kev hloov pauv tshwm sim. Yog tias ib tus ntawm koj xav pom ib leeg ntau zaus thiab lwm tus tsis ua, teem sijhawm ntau npaum li cas koj yuav tsum tau tso tseg rau kev nyob ua ke thiab ntau npaum li cas rau kev ua ub no ib leeg.
- Piv txwv, teeb tsa thaj tsam ntawm kev sib deev (piv txwv li tsis muaj kev sib deev ua ntej sib yuav) thiab kev sib raug zoo hauv lub neej (piv txwv li faib ib hmo ib asthiv rau kev tawm mus lossis ua haujlwm nrog phooj ywg).
- Tsis txhob cia koj tus khub tswj hwm koj thiab tsis txhob tswj koj tus khub. Teem ciam teb txhais tau tias hwm ib leeg thiab ua kev pom zoo kom kev sib raug zoo tuaj yeem ua haujlwm tau zoo.
Kauj Ruam 4. Hais kom meej
Kev sib raug zoo yuav muaj teeb meem yog tias koj ob leeg tsis muaj peev xwm sib tham tau meej. Qhia rau koj tus khub yog tias muaj dab tsi koj xav tau lossis xav tau. Tsis txhob siv tes taw lossis tham lus kom txaus siab rau koj tus khub, txawm tias koj tawm tsam nws tus kheej. Siv cov lus "Kuv" lossis "Kuv" los qhia kev xav, ua kev soj ntsuam, lossis muab tswv yim. Qhov no pab koj qhia koj tus kheej kom meej thiab meej thiab qhia tau tias koj muaj peev xwm lav ris rau koj cov kev xav thiab kev xav los ntawm kev tsis liam lossis txiav txim rau lwm tus.
Txhawm rau sib txuas lus zoo, hais rau koj tus khub, "Kuv xav/xav/xav tau … thaum twg ….. vim li cas …" Piv txwv li, "Kuv tau ntxhov siab thaum koj los rau hauv thiab tso lub qhov rooj qhib vim tias chav tau txias thiab cua hlob."
Kauj Ruam 5. Qhia koj txoj kev xav
Qhia koj cov kev xav thiab kev xav nrog koj tus khub thaum xav txog qhov kev xav uas tshwm sim. Sim nkag siab koj tus khub txoj kev xav thiab txhawb nqa thaum nws tab tom ntsib teeb meem nyuaj siab. Tsim kom muaj kev sib txuas nrog kev xav nrog nws kom koj tuaj yeem nkag siab los ntawm kev nkag siab thiab xav txog yam uas nws tab tom hla.
Yog tias koj xav tias tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam los ntawm koj tus khub, nug nws tias nws xav li cas (tsis muaj kev liam lossis tsis xav). Koj yuav hlub koj tus khub ntau dua yog tias koj tuaj yeem nkag siab lawv cov kev xav
Kauj Ruam 6. Ua tus cwj pwm ntawm kev sib tham nrog koj tus khub tas li
Teem sijhawm sijhawm los tham txog cov teeb meem muaj feem cuam tshuam rau kev sib raug zoo. Qee zaum, koj tsis muaj sijhawm sib tham lossis tham nrog koj tus khub vim tias muaj kev hloov pauv hauv koj li niaj zaus lossis koj lub sijhawm tau nruj dua. Teem sijhawm sijhawm los tham txog koj lub hom phiaj hauv lub neej thiab ib leeg txoj kev cia siab vim tias txhua yam tuaj yeem hloov pauv txhua lub sijhawm. Kev sib raug zoo yuav muaj teeb meem yog tias koj khaws yam tsis zoo rau koj tus kheej.
- Txhawm rau kom muaj kev sib tham tsis tu ncua, nug koj tus khub, "Nyob zoo, Kuv tsuas yog xav kom ntseeg tau tias koj nyob zoo. Kuv ntshai koj tseem chim vim tias peb tau sib ntaus nag hmo. Koj puas pom zoo nrog kuv cov lus thov?"
- Nug koj tus khub yog tias koj ob leeg muaj kev sib raug zoo nrog tib lub hom phiaj. Ua kom ntxaws txog yam koj xav tau thiab xyuas kom koj ob leeg muaj qhov kev cia siab zoo ib yam, xws li thaum nws los txog rau kev yos hav zoov, kev sib deev, kev sib yuav, kev ua niam txiv, lossis kev npaj tsiv tsev.
Ntu 2 ntawm 3: Muaj Kev Sib Faib
Kauj Ruam 1. Pib kev sib raug zoo nrog kev sib hwm
Kev sib raug zoo tshiab feem ntau zoo siab heev, tab sis koj ob leeg tseem yuav tsum hwm ib leeg. Qhia kev hwm rau koj tus khub kom nws kuj zoo siab rau koj. Txawm tias koj chim siab los, tseem hwm nws.
- Nco ntsoov tias koj tus khub qhov kev xav, kev xav, thiab kev xav tsim nyog tau txais kev hwm. Thaum tham nrog koj tus khub, qhia tias koj muaj nuj nqis rau lawv txoj kev xav. Kev sib hwm sib hwm ua lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb hauv kev tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo.
- Sib tham txog txoj kev ua tsaug rau ib leeg. Txiav txim siab yam koj tuaj yeem ua thiab tsis tuaj yeem ua, xws li thuam lossis kov.
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Ua ib qho kev pom zoo txog cov cai kom siv yog tias koj ob leeg sib ntaus:
- Tsis txhob hais cov lus uas thuam koj tus khub
- Tsis txhob liam lwm tus
- Tsis txhob qw
- Tsis txhob siv kev nruj kev tsiv
- Tsis txhob tham txog kev sib nrauj/sib cais
- Tsis txhob xav tias lwm tus neeg xav li cas/kev paub/hnov
- Tsis txhob tham txog yam dhau los
- Tsis txhob cuam tshuam
- Ncua kev sib tham ib ntus yog xav tau
Kauj Ruam 2. Ua neeg hwm
Kev xav tias muaj nuj nqis yog ib qho taw qhia ntawm kev sib raug zoo. Yog ua tas li, yam me me uas muaj txiaj ntsig zoo yuav txhawb kev tsim kom muaj kev sib raug zoo. Tsis txhob hnov qab hais "ua tsaug" rau koj tus khub rau lawv txoj kev ua siab zoo. Tsom ntsoov rau yam zoo uas nws ua, tsis txhob tsom mus rau nws qhov tsis zoo. Thaum twg los xij koj xav tias tau saib xyuas los ntawm koj tus khub, qhia koj qhov kev xav thiab muab kev txaus siab rau lawv.
- Nug dab tsi ua rau koj tus khub xav tias muaj nuj nqis. Puas yog thaum koj xa tsab ntawv hlub, daim npav hnub yug, lossis hais tias "ua tsaug"?
- Qhia rau koj tus khub tias dab tsi ua rau koj zoo siab. Piv txwv li, "Kuv zoo siab koj txaus siab rau yam uas kuv ua rau koj."
Kauj Ruam 3. Siv sijhawm zoo ua ke
Tsis ntev los no, feem ntau siv los sib txuas lus hais lus tau dhau los ua kev sib txuas lus digital. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua rau kev nkag siab yuam kev lossis poob ntawm kev hais lus. Los ntawm kev teem sijhawm sib tham kom sib pom ntau zaus, kev sib raug zoo yuav sib sib zog nqus thiab koj ob leeg yuav nyob ze dua.
- Txiav txim siab yam haujlwm uas koj ob leeg tuaj yeem ua ua ntu zus, tej zaum haus kas fes lossis nyeem phau ntawv thaum hmo ntuj.
- Lwm txoj hauv kev uas zoo siab dua thiab lom zem yog nrhiav kev paub tshiab. Es tsis txhob mus rau huab, pib nrog lub ntiaj teb. Piv txwv li, noj hmo tom tsev noj mov tshiab lossis ua zaub mov noj tshiab.
Kauj Ruam 4. Muab koj tus khub tso tseg
Nco ntsoov tias peb tsis tuaj yeem thov kom lwm tus neeg tau txais txhua yam peb xav tau lossis muab tag nrho lawv lub sijhawm rau peb. Muab sijhawm rau koj tus khub ua ke nrog phooj ywg thiab tsev neeg thaum muaj kev lom zem. Txhua tus neeg yuav tsum tau koom ua ke thiab ua haujlwm nrog lawv cov phooj ywg yam tsis muaj kev koom tes nrog. Txawm hais tias koj xav nyob ib leeg thaum koj tab tom pib muaj kev sib raug zoo, hwm kev ywj pheej ua haujlwm ib leeg vim qhov no tsis yog qhov tsis zoo hauv kev sib raug zoo. Txhawb koj tus khub kom nws muaj peev xwm tuav tau kev phooj ywg zoo nrog nws cov phooj ywg.
Tsis txhob quav ntsej cov phooj ywg qub lossis yuam koj tus khub kom nyob deb ntawm lawv cov phooj ywg. Ua tsaug rau cov phooj ywg qub thiab kev txhawb siab uas lawv muab. Tsis txhob cia koj tus khub txiav txim siab seb koj puas tuaj yeem sib sau ua ke nrog koj tsev neeg
Kauj Ruam 5. Npaj rau kev hloov pauv
Nco ntsoov tias kev sib raug zoo tuaj yeem hloov pauv. Muab koj tus kheej, koj tus khub, thiab koj txoj kev sib raug zoo tam sim no hloov pauv. Paub tias qhov kev hloov pauv muab sijhawm rau koj thiab koj tus khub kom muaj kev loj hlob. Txais qhov tseeb tias kev hloov pauv yog qhov tsis yooj yim sua thiab koj ob leeg tuaj yeem hloov kho tau.
Yog tias muaj kev hloov pauv, tsis txhob poob siab thiab sim daws lawv ib leeg zuj zus
Ntu 3 ntawm 3: Txhim Kho Kev Sib Raug Zoo
Kauj Ruam 1. Tham nrog tus kws kho mob
Yog tias koj raug ntes hauv kev sib raug zoo tsis zoo thiab xav kho nws, nug koj tus khub tham nrog kws kho mob. Nug tus kws kho mob kom pab koj ob leeg sib txuas lus tau zoo thiab tso tseg tus cwj pwm tsis zoo uas nyuaj rau daws thaum cuam tshuam nrog koj tus khub, xws li qw, thuam, tsis quav ntsej, thiab txiav txim siab. Cov kws kho mob tshaj lij tuaj yeem pab koj daws teeb meem kev xav, txhim kho tus cwj pwm, thiab hloov txoj kev koj saib koj li kev sib raug zoo. Tham nrog tus kws kho mob qhia tias koj ob leeg txaus siab ua haujlwm ua ke txhawm rau txhim kho kev sib raug zoo, tsis txhob ua kom nws tawg.
Yog tias koj xav tau cov ntaub ntawv ntau ntxiv, txheeb xyuas wiki Yuav Qhia Li Cas Yog Koj Xav Tau Tus Kws Pab Tswv Yim Sib Yuav
Kauj Ruam 2. Pub dawb koj tus kheej los ntawm kev ua raws cai
Thaum nyob hauv kev sib raug zoo, cov neeg nyob sib luag yuav coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo los ntawm kev txhawb nqa lossis tso cai rau lawv tus khub tsis muaj lub luag haujlwm, tsis paub qab hau, quav yeeb quav tshuaj, lossis muaj mob. Cov neeg nyob ib leeg yuav xav tias ua txhaum yog tias lawv tsis txhawb lawv tus khub txawm tias qhov no tsis zoo rau ob tog. Kev sib haum xeeb feem ntau yog tshwm sim los ntawm kev paub thaum yau txog kev tswj hwm kev xav (tsis ua siab tawv qhia qhov xav tau lossis xaiv qhov ntsiag to kom tsis txhob tawm tsam) thiab tsis muaj peev xwm tsis kam lees lwm tus neeg qhov kev thov.
- Koj yuav ob leeg nyob ib leeg ntawm zej zog thiab poob phooj ywg.
- Kawm paub qhov sib txawv txhais tau li cas thiab tom qab ntawd pib pom yog tias koj (lossis koj tus khub) tsis txaus siab rau tus kheej. Xav txog qhov ua tau ntawm kev sab laj tus kws kho mob uas tuaj yeem muab kev sab laj tus kheej lossis nrog tus khub.
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Kauj ruam 3.
Hwm koj tus khub txoj cai ntiag tug.
Kev sib raug zoo tsis txhais hais tias siv sijhawm nyob ua ke txhua lub sijhawm lossis qhia koj tus khub txhua yam. Hwm koj tus khub txoj kev xav rau tus kheej thiab kev ywj pheej. Yog tias muaj kev khib siab, nco ntsoov tias cov kev xav no yuav tsis muaj dab tsi cuam tshuam nrog koj tus khub li kev ua.
- Tsis txhob nug koj tus khub kom qhia lawv tus email password lossis social media account. Hwm nws tus kheej thiab ntseeg nws.
- Saib xyuas koj tus khub tus cwj pwm txhua lub sijhawm tsis yog txoj hauv kev kom muaj kev sib raug zoo. Qhov no tuaj yeem tshwm sim los ntawm kev khib lossis xav tswj koj tus khub uas yuav ua rau kev puas tsuaj puas tsuaj.
Ua tib zoo saib seb koj tus khub puas yog tus neeg muaj peev xwm ua phem. Kev sib raug zoo yuav tsum yog ua raws kev hwm thiab kev sib luag, tsis yog xav ua tus thawj thiab tswj hwm lwm tus. Thaum xub thawj, koj yuav tsis xav ntau txog nws tus cwj pwm, tab sis kev coj tsis zoo tuaj yeem ua qhov sib txawv loj hauv kev sib raug zoo. Nco ntsoov tias koj xaiv tus khub uas coj tus cwj pwm zoo thiab muaj peev xwm hwm koj, tsis yog tus tswv, tsis nyiam thuam, yws, lossis txaj muag rau lwm tus. Kev ua phem yog ua los ntawm kev txiav txim siab ntawm tus neeg muaj kev txhawj xeeb. Koj tsis tas yuav yog neeg raug tsim txom vim tsis muaj leej twg muaj cai ua phem rau lwm tus neeg.
Nyeem wikiHow Yuav Ua Li Cas Paub Tias Muaj Peev Xwm Ua Phem Rau Kev Sib Raug Zoo rau cov ntaub ntawv ntxiv
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