Kev thov kom pab phooj ywg lossis txheeb ze thaum lub sijhawm nyuaj yog qhov xwm txheej uas ntau tus neeg pom lawv tus kheej hauv. Peb txhua tus zoo siab pab, tsawg kawg rau lub sijhawm luv luv. Yog tias koj pom koj tus kheej muaj cov qhua hmo ntuj uas dhau los ua chav nyob ntev, nws tuaj yeem nyuaj rau lawv tawm ntawm txoj kev yam tsis muaj kev ua yeeb yam.
Kauj ruam
Txoj Kev 1 ntawm 3: Nug Ib Tus Neeg Tawm
Kauj Ruam 1. Txiav txim siab vim li cas koj xav kom nws tawm mus
Koj tus kheej txoj kev xav yuav tsum meej ua ntej pib tham nrog nws. Txheeb xyuas ib qho kev pom zoo uas koj tau ua thaum nws tsiv mus rau hauv koj lub tsev, lossis ib qho lus cog tseg ua/tawg. Ntsuas nws qhov xwm txheej tam sim no thiab tus cwj pwm, siv qhov tseeb los ua lub hauv paus rau koj txoj kev xav. Thaum "Kuv tsis nyiam nyob nrog nws" yog qhov kev zam txim zoo rau kev thov kom ib tus neeg tsiv mus, koj xav tau cov ntsiab lus meej xws li, "Nws yeej tsis tau ntxuav tais diav," "Nws hais tias nws tau tsiv lub hli dhau los," thiab lwm yam ua ntej tham rau nws.
- Sau qhov teeb meem thaum nws tshwm sim, nrog rau hnub tim. Koj yuav xav tau cov ncauj lus kom ntxaws thiab tshwj xeeb ntawm nws tus cwj pwm thaum muaj xwm txheej nyuaj.
- Kev sib tham yuav tsis yooj yim, thiab yuav ua rau koj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws. Txawm li cas los xij, nyob ua ke nrog kev sib txawv lossis teeb meem loj tuaj yeem ua rau kev phooj ywg puas tsuaj, yog li koj yuav tsum sawv ntsug yog tias nws nyob hauv koj lub tsev ntev dhau lawm.
Tswv yim:
Yog tias koj tau teeb tsa txoj cai ua ntej lawv tsiv mus rau koj lub tsev, qhov kev sib tham no tej zaum yuav tsis yooj yim los ua. Nws yog lub tswv yim zoo los ua daim ntawv cog lus nrog koj qhov kev cia siab ua ntej tso cai rau nws txav mus rau hauv koj lub tsev.
Kauj Ruam 2. Hais lus nrog lub suab tsim nyog thiab muaj kev hwm
Thaum koj tuaj yeem xav tias ua txhaum, tsis txaus siab, lossis mob thiab nkees, nws yog qhov tseem ceeb tsis txhob cia koj lub siab xav tawg thiab ua qhov tsis tsim nyog thov. Piav txog koj qhov laj thawj uas thov nws tawm mus, thiab qhia nws tias koj nkag siab tias qhov xwm txheej no nyuaj npaum li cas. Tham nrog nws zoo li koj xav tau ib tus neeg ua haujlwm, ua raws qhov tseeb thiab tsis yog kev xav tawm.
- "Peb zoo siab tau muaj koj nyob ntawm no, tab sis hmoov tsis zoo qhov chaw no xav tau peb siv thiab peb yuav tsum thov koj tawm hauv ob lub lis piam tom ntej."
- Nyob ntawm seb yog vim li cas lawv nyob nrog koj, koj yuav xav sau cov ntaub ntawv pab kev sib raug zoo los pab lawv tawm ntawm lub tsev kom raws sijhawm. Yog tias lawv muaj kev pheej hmoo tsis muaj tsev nyob, sim txuas lawv nrog cov kev pabcuam hauv zej zog. Tej zaum lawv tuaj yeem nyob hauv ib lub tsev haujlwm sib raug zoo ib ntus.
- Ua raws li cov laj thawj uas tau npaj ua ntej. Yog tias nws tau ua teeb meem lossis ua txhaum cov lus cog tseg, ceeb toom nws tias nws tsis ua raws qhov kev cog lus thiab xav tau txav mus rau ib puag ncig tshiab.
Kauj Ruam 3. Muab cov piv txwv ntxaws thiab tsis yog tus kheej yog nws nug yog vim li cas nws thiaj xav tawm mus
Tsis txhob teb nrog "Vim kuv ntxub koj" lossis "Vim koj tub nkeeg." Muab piv txwv tiag, thiab tsis txhob thuam nws. Nov yog ib feem uas ua rau cov npe muaj txiaj ntsig. Yog tias nws yog qhov teeb meem tas li, sau txhua qhov xwm txheej thiab hnub nws tshwm sim. Thaum nws nug "vim li cas," hais txog 2-3 lub sijhawm tshwj xeeb thaum nws ua txhaum nws cov lus cog tseg lossis ua rau koj muaj teeb meem.
Tsom ntsoov rau qhov laj thawj uas koj nug nws kom tawm mus, tsis yog txhua qhov ua yuam kev, thaum twg los xij. "Peb xav tau chaw ntxiv", "Peb tsis tuaj yeem tsim chaw ntxiv rau koj ntawm no", thiab lwm yam
Kauj Ruam 4. Muab sijhawm rau nws kom meej thaum nws yuav tsum tawm mus
Qhia nws tias nws yuav tsum tau tawm hmo ntawd kuj tseem tuaj yeem tsim kev nyuaj siab thiab nruj, thiab koj tus phooj ywg lossis tus txheeb ze yuav tsis muaj chaw mus qhov twg ntxiv. Hloov chaw, xaiv hnub uas nws yuav tsum tau tawm mus thiab qhia rau nws paub tias nws yog lub sijhawm kaw nruj. Feem ntau, sim muab nws 1-2 lub lis piam, lossis txog rau thaum kawg ntawm lub hlis, muab sijhawm rau nws los npaj rau nws qhov kev txav mus tom ntej.
- "Kuv xav kom koj txav tawm ntawm no tsis pub dhau Lub Plaub Hlis 20".
- Yog tias muaj qhov laj thawj meej vim li cas hnub tsis yog lub sijhawm zoo, koj tuaj yeem tham nrog nws txhawm rau txiav txim siab hnub zoo dua. Tab sis tsis txhob hloov ntau dua 3-5 hnub.
Kauj Ruam 5. Nrhiav lwm cov ntaub ntawv lossis kev xaiv raws li kev ua siab zoo
Yog tias koj muaj peev txheej, sau qee cov tswv yim los pab nrog koj cov txheej txheem hloov chaw qhua. Koj tuaj yeem nqa cov ntaub ntawv nrog koj mus rau kev sib tham, qhia nws tias nws yuav tsum mus, tab sis muaj cov kev xaiv muaj. Nws yuav tsis lees paub koj lub tswv yim, tab sis qhia tias koj tseem mob siab txog qhov xwm txheej tuaj yeem ua rau nws poob siab.
Kauj Ruam 6. Ua kom ruaj khov, meej, thiab zoo ib yam txog koj cov kev txiav txim siab
Thaum koj tau txiav txim siab thov kom nws tawm mus, ua raws koj tus cwj pwm. Cov kev sib tham no tuaj yeem ntxhov siab, thiab kev xav yuav tawg txawm tias koj npaj tau zoo npaum li cas. Tab sis koj yuav tsum tuav koj cov av, thiab ua raws li koj qhov kev txiav txim siab. Yog tias koj tus phooj ywg nyob hauv tsev ntseeg koj hloov nws lub siab, nws yuav paub tias nws tuaj yeem ua txhaum txoj cai thiab kev cog lus yam tsis tau hloov pauv. Yog tias txhua yam tsis zoo uas koj yuav tsum ncaws lawv tawm, koj yuav tsum tau npaj kom ncaws tawm lawv.
Kauj Ruam 7. Nkag siab tias qhov no tuaj yeem ua puas lossis puas koj txoj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws
Kev ntiab tawm ib tus phooj ywg lossis txheeb ze tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab, thiab zoo li yuav ua rau mob siab ntxiv. Tab sis thaum kawg ntawm hnub ntawd, koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov tias tso nws hauv koj lub tsev ntev ntev tuaj yeem ua rau kev sib raug zoo puas tsuaj. Yog tias koj muaj teeb meem nrog nws tas li, koj cov phooj ywg/txheeb ze tab tom ua kom zoo rau koj, lossis koj tsis yog ib tus neeg nyob hauv tsev uas tsim nyog, kev sib raug zoo tsuas yog tawg yog tias koj tseem nyob hauv tib lub ru tsev. Txawm li cas los xij, muaj ntau txoj hauv kev sim ua kom koj txoj kev phooj ywg zoo mus li. Koj tuaj yeem:
- Pab nws nrhiav chaw tshiab nyob lossis ua haujlwm.
- Zam kev thuam, txawm nyob hauv qhov xwm txheej nruj. Yog tias nws npau taws, nyob twj ywm thiab rov hais dua qhov koj tau hais txog vim li cas nws tseem ceeb rau koj tias nws pom qhov chaw tshiab nyob. Tsis txhob pib thuam.
- Teem sijhawm kom ntsib, nug nws kom tuaj noj hmo, thiab txuas ntxiv mus sib pom ua phooj ywg.
- Yog tias koj tau mus sib ntaus nrog koj tus phooj ywg, lossis muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb loj, tej zaum txoj kev daws teeb meem zoo tshaj plaws yog txiav kev sib raug zoo nrog nws.
Txoj Kev 2 ntawm 3: Kev Tawm Tsam Tib Neeg Raws Txoj Cai
Kauj Ruam 1. Xa ib tsab ntawv thov kom nws tawm hauv 3 hnub lossis tsawg dua
Txawm hais tias tus qhua ntawm lub tsev tsis yog tus neeg xauj tsev nyob, qee qhov kev cai lij choj ntawm tus neeg xaum tsev thiab tus tswv tsev tseem siv rau koj kev sib raug zoo nrog nws yog tias nws tau nyob nrog koj ntau dua 30 hnub. Tham nrog ib tus kws lij choj uas yuav pab koj sau thiab xa daim ntawv ceebtoom tshem tawm. Ua ntej ceeb toom, sau ntawv, yog ib qho tseem ceeb los tiv thaiv koj li kev lav phib xaub.
- Qhov kev ceeb toom no yuav raug cai raws li nws tus kheej "tus neeg xaum nyob ntawm qhov chaw nyob". Koj xav tau cov xwm txheej no yog tias koj yuav mus ua raws txoj cai, yog li tsis txhob nco nws.
- Ua tib zoo sau tsab ntawv no kom tsis txhob raug siv los ntawm lawv foob koj. Nyeem cov cai thiab sau kom meej koj qhov kev pom zoo nrog lawv, tshwj xeeb yog tias lawv tsis them nqi xauj tsev.
Kauj Ruam 2. Ua tus neeg xauj tsev daim ntawv xaj kom raug laij tawm nrog koj lub tsev hais plaub hauv cheeb tsam yog tias nws tseem tsis tau tawm mus
Yog tias nws them nyiaj rau cov khoom noj lossis cov nqi them, nws tuaj yeem dhau los ua "tus neeg xaum ua haujlwm tsis raug cai", uas ua rau nws nyuaj rau ncaws nws raug cai. Yog tias nws tsis quav ntsej thawj qhov ntawv ceeb toom, koj yuav tsum ua daim ntawv foob tshem tawm nrog tsev hais plaub hauv koj cheeb tsam kom tshem nws tawm.
Feem ntau, koj tsab ntawv yuav tsum qhia qhov chaw rau nws kom tau txais nws cov khoom yog tias nws tsis txav mus, nrog rau hnub tshwj xeeb nws cov khoom yuav raug tshem tawm ntawm koj lub tsev
Sau ntawv:
Yog tias koj npaj yuav ua ntawv foob hauv tsev hais plaub, koj yuav tsum npaj cov npe teeb meem thiab ua txhaum cai (hu ua "thaj chaw raug tshem tawm raws cai") nrog rau cov ntawv luam ntawm ib qho xaum thiab kev pom zoo.
Kauj Ruam 3. Tsis txhob hloov tus yuam sij hauv tsev tshwj tsis yog koj txhawj xeeb txog koj kev nyab xeeb
Yog tias koj txwv tsis pub tus neeg xaum xaum nkag los hauv koj lub tsev, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias lawv cov khoom tseem nyob sab hauv, koj tuaj yeem yog lub hom phiaj ntawm kev foob plaub ntug pej xeem kim heev thiab ua raws txoj cai. Hloov cov xauv los thaiv tus qhua los ntawm kev nkag mus, yog tias nws ua teeb meem lossis cais nws los ntawm nws cov khoom, tuaj yeem ua rau koj raug kaw hauv qhov xwm txheej tsis raug. Dab tsi ntxiv, qhov no feem ntau ua rau cov xwm txheej nruj heev thiab tuaj yeem ua rau muaj teeb meem ntxiv.
Thaum koj tau txais lub tsev hais plaub txiav txim, thiab/lossis tau ceeb toom rau tub ceev xwm tias koj txhawj xeeb txog koj li kev nyab xeeb, lub xauv tuaj yeem hloov pauv tau yam nyab xeeb
Kauj Ruam 4. Hu rau tub ceev xwm yog nws tseem tsis kam tawm mus
Tshwj tsis yog nws yog tus neeg nyob hauv tebchaws, uas feem ntau tau lees paub yog tias nws tau txais tsab ntawv lossis muaj npe nyob hauv daim ntawv cog lus xauj tsev, nws tuaj yeem raug tshem tawm ntawm koj lub tsev ua "ua txhaum cai". Yog lawm, tub ceev xwm koom nrog yog qhov xwm txheej hnyav tshaj plaws, thiab txawm hais txog 119 feem ntau txaus los pov ib tus neeg tawm hauv tsev. Qee tus tub ceev xwm yuav tsis kam koom nrog cov teeb meem zoo li no. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj tau xa tsab ntawv thiab/lossis xa daim ntawv xaj tshem tawm nrog lub tsev hais plaub, lawv yuav los hloov koj tus qhua raws li tus ua txhaum.
Txoj Kev 3 ntawm 3: Teeb Cov Cai Hauv Paus rau Cov Neeg Hauv Tsev
Kauj Ruam 1. Txheeb cov cai thiab ciam teb txij thaum pib
Yog tias koj pib hnov zoo li ib tus neeg tau dhau los ua ntau dua li cov neeg nyob hauv tsev thiab tsawg dua li cov qhua, teeb tsa cov cai hauv av sai li sai tau. Qhov no yuav ua rau koj tuav thaum kawg koj yuav tsum tau tshem ntawm nws - koj tuaj yeem xa mus rau cov kev cai uas tau hais tseg ua ntej es tsis txhob muaj kev xav.
- Teem koj qhov kev cia siab hauv thawj lub lim tiam. Nws puas xav tau them nqi xauj tsev? Puas yog nws yuav tsum nrhiav haujlwm? Muaj cov qauv meej rau nws kom tau raws li nws xav nyob hauv koj lub tsev.
- Daim ntawv cog lus tsis raug kos npe yog txoj hauv kev zoo los teeb tsa cov cai thiab txhua yam uas koj xav tau. Nws tseem zoo dua yog tias daim ntawv no tau lees paub los ntawm tus kws sau ntawv.
Kauj Ruam 2. Teem sijhawm txwv rau cov neeg tawm mus
Ua ntej yuav thov kom nws tawm mus, zaum nrog nws thiab nug nws thaum nws npaj yuav mus. Tawm qhov kev txiav txim siab rau nws, uas yuav ua rau koj yooj yim dua rau hnub hloov chaw thaum lub sijhawm ze. Yog tias lub sijhawm ncua sijhawm tsis tshwm sim rau nws, koj yuav tsum ua haujlwm ua ke. Muab qee yam ua piv txwv, xws li "thaum nws tau txais txoj haujlwm," lossis "tom qab 6 lub hlis."
Yog tias nws xav tau txoj haujlwm, ua haujlwm ua ke txhawm rau txheeb xyuas lub hom phiaj tshwj xeeb uas nws xav tau kom ua tiav - thov 1 txoj haujlwm ib hnub, rov sau dua, thiab lwm yam. Nco ntsoov tias nws tau sim ua haujlwm tiag tiag thiab tsis yog txaus siab nyob nrog tsev nyob dawb xwb
Tswv yim:
Yog tias koj tsis paub meej tias nws yuav tsum txav mus rau hauv koj lub tsev lossis tsis, teem sijhawm sim. Qhia nws thaum tsiv mus rau koj lub tsev tias nws muaj 2-3 lub hlis, uas tom qab dhau mus yuav tsum tau tshuaj xyuas txog nws cov kev xav tau nyob.
Kauj Ruam 3. Sau cov teeb meem thiab teeb meem thaum lawv tshwm sim
Yog tias koj tus phooj ywg lossis tus txheeb ze ua txhaum txoj cai, coj tus cwj pwm tsis zoo, lossis thim rov qab ntawm kev cog lus rau koj, sau qhov xwm txheej nrog rau hnub thiab sijhawm nyob hauv phau ntawv me. Ib zaug ntxiv, qhov no yuav muab qee yam tshwj xeeb rau koj thaum koj tham nrog nws txog qhov nws xav tau tawm mus, tsis yog qhov tsis meej pem lossis kev xav hauv siab.
Khaws nws li tus kheej li sai tau. Hais kom nws tawm mus tsis tas yuav ua rau kev phooj ywg puas tsuaj, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias koj tab tom txiav txim siab qhov laj thawj ntawm qhov tseeb ntau dua li kev xav
Kauj Ruam 4. Pab nws kom nws lub neej rov zoo li qub
Qee tus neeg yuav tawm ntawm lawv tus kheej nrog kev ceev faj me ntsis. Nyeem nws daim ntawv rov pib ua haujlwm thiab tsab ntawv npog thaum nws thov rau kev ua haujlwm, mus ntsib tsev caw nrog nws, thiab txhawb kom nws tawm hauv tsev thiab nyob ywj pheej. Yog tias koj tuaj yeem pab ib tus neeg kom muaj kev ywj pheej, lawv tuaj yeem tawm mus yam tsis muaj teeb meem.
- Txheeb xyuas cov hom phiaj thiab kev cog lus uas lawv ua tas li los ntawm kev ua haujlwm ua ke kom ua tiav lawv.
- Yog tias koj tuaj yeem pab them rau nws qhov kev txav mus los, qhov no yuav yog qhov nws xav tau tawm mus.
Lub tswv yim
- Kev xav yuav tsum tswj kom ntau li ntau tau. Koj lub hom phiaj tsis yog tsim kom muaj kev sib cav tab sis sib tham yooj yim txog koj qhov kev thov thiab yuav ua li cas koj cov qhua yuav tsum hwm nws.
- Hauv ntau qhov xwm txheej, koj yuav tsum sim ua qhov kev sib tham no ib-rau-ib. Kev tawm tsam los ntawm pawg neeg tuaj yeem ua rau tib neeg xav tias ua phem thiab ua rau lawv lub siab xav tawg.
Ceeb toom
- Xyuas kom koj tsis txhob npau taws. Yog tias koj npau taws txog qee yam xwm txheej lossis xwm txheej, tos kom txog thaum koj lub siab meej meej txuas ntxiv nrog kev sib tham.
- Nco ntsoov tias cov qhua tsis kov koj qhov muaj nuj nqis thaum tham txog kev ntiab tawm.
Tshooj lus ntsig txog
- Nug Cov Neeg Hauv Tsev Neeg Tsis Txaus Siab Saib Xyuas Lawv Tus Kheej
- Ua siab ntev
- Yooj Yim Koj Lub Neej
- Ua Lub Hom Phiaj
- Daws teeb meem tsev neeg
